Round 2 Chemo - Ollie vs. the PICC line

 Round 2 Begins! I feel like we should get the makers of Rock 'Em Sock 'Em to sponsor us knocking lymphoma out!

Ollie wearing the awesome hoodie friends Tash, Alan and Oliver sent him as he starts round 2 of chemo today.

The morning dawned, dark and  slippery. Naturally we'd be starting round 2 at 7:30 at CHEO during a freezing rain storm. I guess it kind of fit Ollie' s mood of yesterday. All weekend long he had been lovely having great visits with the Navas (he had a blast cutting Stephen's hair off) and the Foxes. Visits with them made the holidays feel more festive and made us all feel more like our old social selves.

But by yesterday again we had fighting from him about going back for round 2. At his refusal we had to give him the tough love and explain that if he gets the chemo he'll get well and live a long and happy life, whereas if we don't take the chemo it is certain death. Pretty tough stuff to lay on your 7-year old, but we've promised not to lie to him through this journey. It was upsetting for all of us (Mario, Abby and I) to have to explain to him why we need him to live. Conversations you never thought you'd be having with your 7- and 11- year old children...

After tears and anger we talked about how to make CHEO less boring. We agreed to take more of his own toys with us this time including Beyblades of course, the Nintendo Switch, and favourite mini board games. With one more bag added for toys Mario swears that it looks like we're going for a month, but Ollie and I like to be prepared for anything. If it sparks joy, right?! 😉

So we got to Medical Day Unit safely and on time today and began the waiting. Mostly waiting for a bed on 4 North since by 9:30 we had blood tests done and the doctor had confirmed that his levels were great (Neutrophils up to 1.8!). By 11 am Mario was complaining and shortly thereafter, Ollie was, too. I reminded them both that Ollie and I had waited 5 his in an Emerg isolation room the week before while we waited for a bed, so it can take time to make room for new patients. Naturally Ollie got progressively grumpier. 

Of course by this time his PICC line was distantly getting kinked each time he bent his elbow and this would set the alarm off on his pump and stop the flow of the ton of fluid they were trying to get into him before chemo. Finally the VAT team showed up to change the dreaded PICC dressing again (see Friday's post for more of that torture) in hopes of fixing it.

We did get a bed after that (about 4.5 hours after arriving), but the PICC continued to cause issues all afternoon. Finally the next shift of the VAT team came on and the expert veteran who fixed the issue with wine ingenious engineering with stern strips the first night of round 1 fixed it again. No further issues, thank God! So chemo stated very late and finished after almost 4 hours just a few minutes ago! 

In the meantime we had an ordering mess up with Gabriel's Pizza (which Abby and Daddy profited from since the order got sent home instead of to CHEO!), reordered and finally ate. 

Maria and Micheline (affectionately named Aunt Squish by the kids on a Tremblant trip we all took together last summer) Cinquino were so sweet to come by despite the rotten weather and bolstered our spirits after a hard day. Ollie even taught Maria how to Beyblade! 

All in all a tiring but successful day. He remarked tonight that we only had 4 more days of chemo this week and maybe one day after that before we get to go home on Saturday, so the positivity we are shooting for is coming along, even if I'm dragging him into it kicking and screaming at times.

Thanks for all of your well wishes for round 2. After this we'll be 1/3 done treatments! Until tomorrow...

'Tis the Season

We've been silent since Monday, because we've been enjoying every moment of Christmas at home. 

My mom and stepdad arrived on Christmas Eve and the kids were beyond excited. We often have a quiet Christmas here with us and Mario's mom and they're always lucky, but there's nothing quite like the chaos of a family Christmas. Last year for example, we were in California with my mom and stepdad and my brother's family. My mom has said many times in recent weeks how grateful she is that we all took that trip given what we're dealing with this year. So Gamma and Bumpa were here and Christmas felt like a special occasion, which we all really needed this year. 

Sadly, Mario's mom was down and out with a bad cold that she didn't want to pass on to any of us given how dangerous it could be for Ollie. On Christmas Day, Mario took her a Christmas dinner and her presents, wearing a mask and gloves to protect us all. That's our new reality and it's hard not to offend anyone given the precautions we have to take now. 

Even in mass I felt that way. Abby sang with a special choir on Christmas Eve at our church, so mom and I went to hear her solo. She did beautifully and it brought tears to my eyes. Multiple times during mass after touching surfaces and after shaking hands (sharing the sign of peace) with those around us, mom and I used hand sanitizer and I'm sure people around us who didn't know our situation either thought we were hypochondriacs or very rude assuming everyone around us had bad germs. Unfortunately my son's health trumps anyone else's feelings or assumptions right now.

I find myself frequently feeling Ollie's forehead for fever. If I wake in the night, I go to his room and check it. When he wakes, I check it. He may end up a hypochondriac himself after this! LOL

We are so grateful to so many friends who are being so understanding and getting flu shots for us, using the hand sanitizer when they pop by our place and step inside the door and don't come around when they are feeling unwell. These are all little gestures that they are feeling for us and helping in ways that they can. 

So Christmas was lovely and the kids were happy with their (too) many gifts. We watched movies, played games, visited with my parents and just enjoyed being together. 

On Boxing Day Ollie did get a bit of cabin fever and was sad and mad that he couldn't go out someplace in public. He and I had a long cuddle and talked about trying to change our definition of fun and thinking about fun things we COULD do together at home. We made a list of things and everyone participated in things like laser tag and give and go seek, even Gamma and Bumpa to his delight. 

On the 27th Gamma and Bumps went back to Southwestern Ontario and Ollie and I had to head back to CHEO for his regular Friday PICC dressing change. It was a hard afternoon with him refusing to cooperate despite the fact that he's had this done 4 times already and is not that big of a deal. It's the fact that he doesn't get to control what is happening to his body that upsets him. When he says no we still have to do it to protect him. 

I also think it was reality returning because he knows we'll be back there again for 6 days as of Monday for round 2 of chemo. He was super angry at me for making him go there and very mean to me as a result. Normally I can take it and tell him to be bad at me versus the doctors and nurses who are trying to help him, but I was sad for him and tired and frustrated. The child life specialist helped me to calm him somewhat and got us out the door after a lot of stomping and punching walls (him not me). When we got in the van which I guess is our safe place now, he began to sob. Then I did, too. 

I haven't let myself do this too often. Yes, I'm often in tears and swiping them away (usually at the kindness of others), but I've only let myself have a couple of big cries and mostly in the shower when he can't hear. I don't want him to think he won't make it and that's not what I think either. It's just that this journey is so often overwhelming and even the strongest of us need to let it all out to cleanse our emotional well being from time to time. So as I sobbed, Ollie calmed down and asked me if I was okay and started apologizing for making me cry. My boy is very empathetic and is like this with his sister when she is sad, too. I explained that mommy tries to be strong for him and didn't want to force him to do these things, but wants so desperately for him to be well that she'll do even the hardest things to make that happen. That I know it makes him unhappy now, but we must endure it so that we can all have a long and happy life together after cancer. Finally we talked about how anger and sadness are okay and normal, but we can't hurt each other when we feel that way. Short-term pain, long term gain is pretty tough for kids to get. 

So we hugged and headed to Tim Horton's for a drive through treat and agreed to go home and enjoy our two days off at home before going back Monday to kick cancer out some more. He says he wants to start the Kids Kicking Cancer martial arts in the new year so that maybe that can help him not to feel so angry. So young and yet such a wise old soul already. 

We are okay and happy to have had this time at home. We'll update you on Monday on round 1. Hugs to all and enjoy your time together!

Intuition, Fever and Fear

This is post number two because today's events warranted their own post.

Last night everything was fine. Ollie went to bed snuggling with me in his new twin over double bunk bed. He seemed warm to me, but did not have a fever. As I lay with him and he fell asleep he was restless and very sweaty. I got up and prepared Abby's lunch and did a few things, going back to check on him a few times. I told Mario I was going to bed and felt I should sleep with him as I fear fever in the night right now and had a sense something was off. 

Fever requires immediately going to CHEO Emergency because his immune system is shot since the chemo and he is now what they call neutropenic. This means that his white blood cells (WBC on a blood test) are very low and any illness is dangerous because the body has no ability to fight them off. 

So my mother's intuition told me to sleep with him and several times in the night I woke to a very sweaty kid and took his temperature. Each time it was normal, but I knew something was not right. When we woke about 7:30 to get ready to go to CHEO for his usual Friday PICC dressing change, he felt warm, so I took it again and it was a bit high. I waited a few minutes until he was up and had cooled down from the warm covers and took it again. Higher again this time and definitely a fever. So plans changed rapidly. I called our Oncology Coordinator to let her know and she told me to come to Emerg and she'd alert them.

I sent Abby and Mario off to their regular days, promising to let them know any news. Ollie was otherwise well and cooperated to get to CHEO, walking himself into Emerg. Once there we were triaged immediately and shown into an isolation room to minimize our exposure to anything else. That's the fastest we have ever been triaged at CHEO. At least cancer patients get VIP emergency treatment. LOL

We were quickly visited by nurses and a doctor who checked him all over for any sources of infection (nothing obvious). Everyone was gowned and masked as a precaution. Bloodwork was drawn rapidly, a urine sample taken, a team came down to change his PICC dressing, a second doctor from oncology arrived to do more checks. IV's of antibiotics and fluids were started. 

The doctor told me he'd have to be admitted for 48 hours for meds and observation. Admissions arrived and had me sign forms to admit him (again so glad to be overinsured and always paid for the full hospital coverage).

I guess I'm getting used to all of this as I found it all comforting because it reminded me we were in the best place for him to be safe, whereas weeks ago it would have elevated my stress levels. 

What did stress me out was having to tell him we'd have to be admitted again. To say he took it badly is an understatement. Sadness, anger and complete defiance ensued. There was yelling, wall punching and absolute insistence that he was going home because round 2 of chemo wasn't starting until December 30. Despite everything I could not calm him by myself and it took me, two nurses and a child life specialist to sooth him and bring him down to a manageable level. 

One of the ways they did this was by talking about what made him angry and suggesting we make a punching pillow and draw a target and write those words on it. 

Luckily, one of the nurses who came by was also our POGO Interlink Nurse, Graham who had stopped by our place on Wednesday to help with paperwork and had bonded with Ollie over Beyblades. Graham had also gone into the school earlier this week to teach his and Abby's classes about lymphoma, so we recognize that he has done a lot for our family this week. So Graham also engaged Ollie in a discussion about Beyblades, taking his mind off the fact that he was being admitted. 

The thing about Ollie is he is passionate like Daddy, but pragmatic like Mommy. So after the room had cleared, he and I had a good chat about how powerful his brain is and if we prepare for the worst and hope for the best things generally turn out fine and we aren't disappointed constantly. He asked me what the worst was and I said we'd be in hospital a few days, but maybe less and we could still hopefully make it home for Christmas. Then my bright, sweet pragmatic boy said he had done eleven days already and two days wasn't bad and we could do it. I pray that it's only two days and I don't have to disappoint him and ruin the lesson.

So we finally got a bed on 4 North after lunch and with a new positive attitude, we arrived in our new room. To his delight it's a private room (we were alone in a double last time) and has extra amenities like our own mini-fridge (please send wine and cheese...LOL), a PS4 and TV for it in the room (we borrowed a communal one from the playroom last time, but apparently these were donated for isolation rooms) and the crowning glory...his own tub (he had to have a bath down the hall last time and found that unacceptable...imagine having a bathroom in your room with no bathtub!)! He exclaimed that this really was at last more like a hotel.

No sooner had we settled in then a special visitor arrived to bring some presents and spread some Christmas cheer. See below...

Got to meet Brady from the Ottawa Senators who was even a good sport when he learned the Sens are Ollie's number 2 team and the Leafs are his number 1 like Daddy. 

Now Ollie is napping and I am drinking a coffee from Keurig pods that some Christmas angel left in the kitchenette for everyone and thanking God for them and the fact that there is even still some sugar and cream that I left behind when we left here not quite two weeks ago.

None of this is what we planned, but as a strategic planner, I know the importance of an "evergreen" plan that is constantly being adapted to accommodate changes and also of always having a Plan B and sometimes even a Plan C. So we'll hunker down and watch our new subscription to Disney+ this weekend and pray that by Monday we are home and cosy again. 

Sending you all love and prayers for a lovely weekend before Christmas. Please be safe, be good to each other and remember that the perfect outfits, food, gifts and decor don't matter this or any Christmas. It's being wherever you are with people you love and enjoying time together.