The Brave Boy and Therapeutic Clowns at CHEO (plus Mario photobombing)

Sunday 26 March 2023

A big, beautiful, blind life (with lots of hockey!)

Wow! We haven't written anything since early January, so we're happy to tell you that Ollie is still doing great and keeping busy! In addition to his usual weekly activities of skateboarding and Kids Kicking Cancer Canada's Heroes' Circle martial Arts program, the last few months have been filled with the Ottawa 67s Blind Hockey/Canadian Blind Hockey Association season, and the 6th annual (third year involved for us and it was the most successful yet - final amount raised to be announced soon!) Snow Angels for CHEO campaign with Ollie's class participating and doing  special group snow angels to help!

We also participated in a bunch of special events and activities such as: 
- Ollie's class went cross country skiing; 
- Attending an Ottawa Senators game against Colorado in the Wade's World Suite with friends thanks in part to the CHEO Foundation; 
- Presenting the CNIB Buddy Dog program at a Scouts Canada Cubs meeting;
- The Canadian Cancer Society's Palliative Care campaign commercial ran on networks and streaming services across the country  (Ollie loved the excited messages from people across the country saying they'd seen him on TV!) and Ollie's photo was once again on the front page of the Ottawa Citizen from our interview with them in support of the campaign; and
- We filmed an episode of an upcoming AMI-TV 6-part documentary series on Guide Dogs to represent the CNIB Buddy Dog.

Funny...when I write it all down I realize that winter really has been busy! I wondered why I couldn't find time to update the blog! 😂 And I am only doing it now because I happen to have down time on the way back from Toronto where we had the latest event...the 2023 Canadian National Blind Hockey Tournament! What an incredible weekend! 

[Photo description: Ollie models his new Canadian Blind Hockey shirt while getting ready for the Multisports Day of the 2023 Canadian National Blind Hockey Tournament. CNIB Buddy Dog Hope lies in the floor beside him wearing her best and halty while Mario peeks around from behind Ollie.]

The tournament was the biggest ever held by the Canadian Blind Hockey Association and was an invitational, so a handful of kids from Ollie's Ottawa team went. The event took place at the old Maple Leaf Gardens/current Mattamy Athletic Centre for Toronto Metropolitan University (formerly known as Ryerson University), so Mario was almost as psyched as Ollie, telling Ollie that he was having an experience in Toronto that his daddy had never had, skating on "hallowed ground". It is also located right downtown, so we stayed just two blocks from where we lived near Sick Kids Hospital for 5 months during Ollie's stem cell transplant in 2020.

[Photo description: Mario is driving while Dawn takes a family selfie on the way to Toronto for the hockey tournament. A smiling Ollie and Abby (with an Emoji head - she asked that her face not be shown as she was just waking up) were in the back.]

We took the whole family, having talked about whether it might be triggering to be in the same neighbourhood filled with so many of our hardest memories, and deciding everyone was okay and could handle it. I don't think it was a coincidence that we also traveled there on the exact day that three years before we'd traveled to the same neighbourhood for our first (false) attempt at transplant in the first week of the first pandemic lockdown. My how far we've come mentally and physically to get here now!

[Photo description: The family driving to Toronto for Ollie's first (false) attempt at transplant in March 2020. The van was packed full and Ollie needed morphine to manage the pain of sitting after being bedridden for the 2 months since he'd relapsed in his central nervous system and went blind.]

All weekend long I felt emotional, grateful, nostalgic...fighting tears - both good and bad. As we walked the same streets and took Hope to the same park that I'd once screamed and cried in when he'd relapsed there the second time and we'd been told maybe we shouldn't treat him and cause him more pain or sudden death. Thank GOD we didn't accept that. As I sat watching him playing hockey and meeting old and new friends all weekend with such incredible joy, I was struck again and again with how lucky and blessed we are. How much I could not have imagined being in this position three years before when everything seemed desperate and near impossible. We hear often what an inspirational story his is and I really felt that myself all weekend.

[Photo description: Ollie tries the most challenging rock wall with various angles at the bottom of the wall during Multisports Day.]

The weekend started with a Multisports Day sponsored by the Government of Canada - Sport Canada. Here kids with vision loss got to try rock climbing, ball hockey, soccer, tennis, basketball, and an obstacle course. In typical Ollie fashion, having done rock climbing before at CNIB Lake Joe and being among the biggest kids, he started on the hardest rock wall. It had a strange angle that made it the most challenging.wall. Ollie first attempted it on his own and was struggling. I went over to take a pic and asked if he'd prefer to start with an easier wall and when he said yes, we asked and were told he'd have to wait a few minutes for one to be available. I let him know he'd need to wait and turned away to talk to another parent. Moments later when I turned back to Ollie there he was high on the hardest wall having quietly decided not to let it best him.

[Photo description: Ollie on the hardest rock wall nearly at the top on attempt #2. The kid just won't give up. Thank God!]

He quickly finished his climb to the top and promptly repelled down and dramatically collapsed. When we recovered, he told me his arms felt like rubber. I asked if he wanted a break and then to do an easier wall. He told me when you have done the hardest things you already know you can do the easier stuff. What a kid! 

[Photo description: Ollie dramatically lies on the floor on his back after his challenging climb, while still connected to the rope while Mario and an instructor lean over to talk to him.]

The actual hockey tournament began  Friday with various divisions playing including the Children and Youth Divisions where most of the people we knew were playing. There was also a three game series of the National Team Canada vs. USA Men's Hockey Teams battling for the cup (Canada won the series).

[Photo description: Ollie and the Children's yellow/67s Team on the bench with their coach for the weekend]

Ollie was #55 (for staying alive we joked) yellow/67s Team in the Children's Division and while it was clear that his full blindness made his participation more challenging than for those with low vision, he had a blast, did all he could to contribute and was happiest playing in net where he could easily hear the puck coming at him. His Ottawa coaches were there, too and commented that maybe next year we should start training him to be a real goalie. Normally for the Children's Division they don't dress a goalie, but they do for the youth division. The hockey was fun to watch and the kids worked hard (they played one game each of the 3 days of the tournament) and had a blast off the ice, too. 

[Photo description: Ollie #55 yellow talks to the ref at centre ice before a play begins with players from both teams gathering for the puck drop.]

I think my two favourite moments of the tournament were in the last game at the end. The first was when the buzzer went signaling the end of the game, which Ollie's team won. While I knew winning would make him and his friends feel great, that's not what made it best. It was that his Ottawa friend Jack immediately skated over to the net where Ollie was playing and grabbed Ollie in the biggest hug!

[Photo description: Jack hugs Ollie in net after their big win. Photo courtesy of Jack's mom, Allysun.]

Then Jack let Ollie grab his back while he lead Ollie back to the bench. In blind hockey typically the players with more sight use a hockey stick to tow those with no vision (often the goalies) back to the bench. No man left behind.

[Photo description: Teammate and friend Jack leads Ollie back from the net to the bench after winning their team's final game. Photo courtesy of Jack's mom, Allysun.]

The second was during the medal presentation. Really they were all getting participation medals no matter who won, but my pent up emotions started leaking at how proud they all were, how much they'd all worked so hard and improved this year and how Ollie cheered as they announced all of his friends from his tournament team and his Ottawa friends on the other team, too.

[Photo description: Ollie puts his gloved fist in the air, cheering for his  friends as they received their end of tournament medals.]

The CNIB was a sponsor of the tournament so we also got to finally meet in person staff from the Toronto office whom we have met many times online and there were lots of awesome cross-over situations like seeing CNIB Lake Joe staff who are university students in Toronto and were volunteering, and other CNIB Guide Dogs Buddy Dog program families that we've either met at last summer's Ontario Buddy Dog Camp at CNIB Lake Joe or we've met from other parts of the country in the online CNIB Buddy Dog group. It was so fun to have Hope there who was so well behaved all weekend and to meet a few of the other new Buddy Dogs like Terry and Georgie, too! 

[Photo description: CNIB Buddy Dog Hope on the right with Ollie and Mario meets Buddy Dog Terry with Gabriel's mom, Melissa at the Parasports Day.]

My final favourite moment was Ollie meeting Curtis Ruttle today who played a big role in getting Ollie back to skateboarding after he went blind. When Ollie went blind during cancer and was having his stem cell transplant at Sick Kids Hospital (just down the street from the former Maple Leaf Gardens/now Mattamy Athletic Centre where the tournament was), he asked if he'd ever be able to skateboard again and mom told him she didn't know, but if there was a way we'd find it and try. 

[Photo description: Curtis Ruttle and Ollie meeting for the first time at the tournament in the Mattamy Athletic Centre.]

About two years ago and almost a year after transplant when Ollie was fully recovered,  we saw a social media posting from CNIB highlighting the ALT Route Projects where blind and low vision youth in Calgary were skateboarding. Mindful of this, mom was inspired to contact The Yard Ottawa about Ollie's wish to skateboard blind. Their incredible response was, "Let's get Ollie back in the skate park!", and they connected us with his new instructor, Jordan Wells.

Jordan and mom contacted The ALT Route Projects and connected with Curtis Ruttle who was then the passionate 16 year old who wrote the grant proposals, did the promotions and was the energy behind the project. He was super helpful in getting Ollie started with blind skateboarding safely. 

Today Curtis and Ollie got to finally meet in person at the tournament and talk about exciting ideas to expand the program in Ottawa and to other centres across the country! 

[Photo description: Ollie wearing his medal and sitting in the dressing room after the last game while he takes off his gloves.]

Ollie told me this morning how sad he was to be leaving and that the tournament was over. He met so many awesome new friends from across the country and connected with friends made virtually and in person through CNIB the past two years. We talked to so many parents and staff about the incredible CNIB Buddy Dog program, talked about ways to make programs and services even better for children and youth with vision loss in this country. 

I left feeling grateful and inspired to keep helping Ollie to live his best life. This is the life that I predicted he'd have but couldn't truly fully visualize after he went bind and we told the doctors when they didn't know if it was temporary or permanent that if they just saved his life we'd give him a big, full and beautiful one - no matter what. Thank you to all who help us to give him this incredible life.

[Photo description: Ollie receiving an emergency blood transfusion at Sick Kids Hospital on this very day three years ago, March 26, 2020. So grateful to be where we are today.]

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