5 Years: Official Long-term Survival

[Photo Description: Abby hugs Ollie to her as they pose with a cake reading, "Re-birthday/Hero Day #5!". Both are smiling.]

Almost unbelievably we find ourselves at 5 years post transplant, celebrating Ollie's 5th Re-birthday and Abby's 5th Hero Day (officially last week on July 20th)! 

If you have been following along with us the past 6 years since diagnosis,  you might remember that it was her incredible bravery donating her half match stem cells for her brother (during the early days of the pandemic on March 31st, 2020 when planes were grounded and we couldn't use the 3 perfect matches on the international registry) that enabled his survival. He finally got them on July 20, 2020 after relapsing in his central nervous system (CNS) a second time, enduring 13 sessions of brain and spine radiation while using his miracle drug,  Lorlatinib to get back into remission, and on to transplant with her "overachieving" cells. Getting to long-term survival with ALCL ALK Positive cancer with CNS relapses historically was considered unlikely. Thank God and the science he gave us for the evolution of cancer research that has gotten Ollie to this point! 

When you're going through the agony of cancer itself and relapses, all you can do is focus on today's survival.  One day at a time.  And going through a stem cell transplant requires shortening your gaze even more,  to deal with each moment and each hour as they come. Just hoping to survive each day to get through the first 100 days,  the first 6 months and the first year.  

Then if you are still high risk for relapse even after transplant as Ollie was because of his central nervous system (CNS) involvement, and you are taking a cancer inhibitor drug,  you are followed at regular intervals by your medical team for 3 years post transplant.  So you get into the 4th year with fear because suddenly you're only seeing your oncology team once a year and not getting scans unless there is an issue.  You watch everything like a hawk and pray that the little bumps that appeared on a hot summer day are just heat rash and not a relapse. It takes a lot of effort in these post transplant years to train your brain not to go to the darkest places every time there is a possible symptom that might indicate that your fragile stability is lost. 

[Photo Description: Abby,  Mario,  Ollie, and Dawn pose for a selfie in Mont-Tremblant,  Quebec while painting pottery in August 2024. Ollie is sticking his tongue out in cheekiness.]

When you're 5 years out from stem cell/bone marrow transplant you start to settle into the "new normal" of just living.  Trying to believe that you finally can without constant fear,  and hoping all of the healing that you've done will help to keep your nervous system calm when there are inevitable triggers. You might stop thinking about cancer every day (if you're not still doing all of the advocacy that we do) and when you do think about it at all it is often of the crazy life lessons that you learned, and the unexpected blessings that came your way during an otherwise traumatic time. 

So what have our incredible survivors (for Abby and all of us have survived Ollie's cancer and it's long-term effects, too) been up to the past year? In a nutshell - A LOT (you can read the details below)!!! We have continued our many advocacy activities for the many organizations that have helped us to get Ollie well and to help him to thrive, and added a few new ones along the way. Ollie has continued to be passionate about many parasports and the results show that they are keeping him strong and healthy both physically and mentally. Some awards were unexpectedly won within our family and humbly appreciated, and we all grew and healed along the way.

[Photo Description: Mario and Dawn stand on either side of Ollie in his school's front hall while he holds his certificates and wears his medal after the Awards assembly in June 2025. ]

For any who will stop reading here (I appreciate many of you are too busy to read all of the details below), I just want to make my annual reminder to always hold on to your hope, no matter what. Especially if you or a loved one you are caregiver for continues to struggle with getting into remission.  I don't know what we would have done without our hope and faith. 

If you are working in the medical field trying to save others like my Ollie, please do not look at your patients as if they are statistics. Statistically Ollie should not be here today and there was a time that we were told it was highly unlikely that he would even get back into remission and on to transplant, never mind become a long-term survivor and thrive. But here he is - a testament to determination, resiliency and hope. His survival was possible because no one gave up on him and everyone worked together to find solutions. 

Even in stats there are always outliers. The world (even the medical world) is not black and white, but many shades of grey (even Ollie with his blindness sees shades of grey) and neither people nor stats land tidily into typical groups all of the time. Embrace the outliers. Learn from them. Believe that they are real and are sent to teach you new lessons. If there is a sliver of hope that these outliers might survive, allow their families to hold on to this hope and don't crush it. Ollie is here today because we wouldn't let our hope be crushed and our medical team listened to us. We insisted he would survive and they let us try the next thing. That next thing (Lorlatinib and brain and spine radiation) saved him. And the next thing after that (stem cell transplant) gave him re-birth. We were lucky that our next things and time didn't run out and now we try to help to find potential next things for others. We can't save all of them (yet), but we can learn while trying and apply these learnings to the next kids. 

[Photo Description: Ollie adds his handprint to the lab coat of a researcher from the CHEO Research Institute while Dawn assists at the Hyundai for Hope event at CHEO. These researchers hung these coats in the lab to remind them that real life kids need their discoveries.]

Thank you always to our entire teams from bottom to top at CHEO, Sick Kids, the Ottawa Hospital and Princess Margaret Hospital. Thank you to the many many incredible not for profit organizations that have provided resources and programming over the past 6 years since diagnosis (some named here). And to each and every family member, friend, community member, total stranger who came out to help a boy you didn't even know (especially the selfless donors of blood products who saved him repeatedly in those first 2 years of treatment). Every single one of you was crucial in saving our child. We will never forget and will always try to be part of the supportive armies of other children like Ollie to try to help save more of them. 

For any who really want the details of our past year:

• Ollie's Health: 
• Ollie's two series of bone density scans showed that his osteopenia in his lower back and hip are basically resolved. His bones have grown stronger simply by us ensuring he had adequate intake of calcium,  using daily Vitamin D3 and K1 (helps the calcium be directed straight to his bones), and with all of his many parasports that he plays (we've contributed to research that shows that sports and physical exercise in cancer kids makes their bones stronger);
• Ollie had a great annual oncology check-up. Most side-effects have gotten better over time, but a x-rays and an MRI of his spine (due to back pain he was experiencing for a few weeks) confirmed that his spine has degenerated to some degree already (not common in a kid his age, but common in kids his age who have had spinal radiation), and an x-ray of his leg where he had a strange protrusion of a bone identified 3 bone spurs. Neither of these issues is causing him any pain at the moment and we have been proactively seeing a physiotherapist and an exercise specialist at the Children's Treatment Centre to ensure that he is doing the right things for his back daily. We are also waiting on an orthopedic consult (9 months and counting);
• Ollie continues to grow well without intervention other than his daily thyroid medication. He has now surpassed his sister in height (to her disgust)! We are watching his testosterone closely as he cruises into puberty to determine if we will need to add synthetic hormones to ensure his continued normal development and growth. I am still constantly shocked to hear of kids who have not seen an endocrinologist post treatment as I firmly believe this should be standard of care. 

[Photo Description: Dr. Abbott (Ollie's original primary oncologist) stands behind Ollie resting her hands on his shoulders as Ollie gives two thumbs up during his annual oncology visit at CHEO in fall 2024 when we bumped into her. Ollie is wearing a Notre Dame Science t-shirt, a white ball cap that says, VIP and has an image of a figure of a person with a mobility cane on it, and Ollie holds his mobility cane in the crook of his arm.]

• Childhood Cancer Advocacy and Activities:
• Our family's PROFYLE video campaign for Childhood Cancer Canada was launched in September 2024 for Childhood Cancer Canada;
• We were happy to lend our story with others from the Ottawa pediatric cancer community to the Kindred Foundation in support of Phoebe Rose Rocks Committee for a fundraiser in September for Childhood Cancer Awareness Month;
• Ollie and Dawn continue to support CHEO as much as they are able: 
• Dawn is Co-Chair of the CHEO Oncology Patient and Family Advisory Council (PFAC);
• Dawn is also a member of the CHEO Indigeneity, Inclusion, Diversity, Equity and Access and Social Justice (I-IDEAS) committee, 
• Dawn continues to be a Family Leader with the CHEO Research Institute and a Family Advisor on several of its current cancer studies in progress;
• Ollie helped to cut the ribbon to open the new MRI machine for CHEO in October 2024. 
• Ollie also spoke to the CHEO Board of Directors at their annual retreat about his experience as a kid with disability at CHEO and how CHEO can be more accessible;
• Dawn and Ollie supported the shorter Snow Angels for CHEO campaign this year, and their team raised more than in any other year;
• Dawn and Ollie participated in the CN Cycle for CHEO for the first time;
• Ollie participated with other survivors in the Hyundai Hope on Wheels event at CHEO where they donated $250,000 for childhood cancer research at the CHEO Research Institute;
• The whole family participated in the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society of Canada's Light the Night Ottawa Event. Dawn continues to be a member of the LLSC Parent Advisory Committee (PAC) and helped to develop a new series of materials for families experiencing childhood cancer. Ollie's photo and story also continued to be part of various mailouts for LLSC over the past year;
• Ollie was pleased to be asked by his former/first Educational Assistant (now a teacher) Mrs. Taylor to come to her school and speak about his wish from Make-A-Wish Eastern Ontario as her school had decided to support them for their Lenten Project. His speech made a big impact and was really emotional for mama because we got to see Mrs. Taylor who helped him so much his first two years back at school. Mrs. Taylor later messaged us that the school's goal had been $2,500 and Ollie inspired them to crush it, raising $4,022.04!;
• Ollie was asked by one of his CNIB friends to speak at his high school at their Canadian Cancer Society Relay for Life launch in Perth, Ontario and was glad to do so. Ollie's speech also inspired another young woman who attends that school and has been going through cancer treatment at CHEO the past few years to speak publicly and poignantly about it for the first time ever. Ollie also attended the relay itself with his friend and their school had the best result that they have ever had with over $115,000 raised for research;
• Dawn continues to be an active Co-Lead for Advancing Childhood Cancer Experience, Science and Survivorship (ACCESS)'s Education and Training theme and attended the ACCESS Annual Meeting in Toronto in January 2025;
• Dawn helped with a Canadian Blood Services swabbing event in support of Hillary McKIbben. Dawn also donated blood three times in the past year and Abby has just booked to make her first donation now that she is 17!;
• Dawn helped two other Ottawa cancer mamas to start Golden Moms Ottawa this year - a community of unwavering support, advocacy, and connection for mothers navigating childhood cancer—whether in treatment, survivorship, or remembrance. 

[Photo Description: Ollie stands beside his former EA Mrs. Taylor who has her arm around him while Ollie gives two thumbs up and holds his mobility cane in the crook of his arm.]

• Disability/Vision Loss Awareness and Activities:
• Mario took Ollie and Hope to CNIB Buddy Dog Camp last August (Dawn had a flare up of her spinal osteoarthritis so Abby stayed home to help her) and all three had a great week;
• Ollie participated in an accessibility study for a section of the national Museum of Science and Technology and was thrilled to be paid to give his opinion on how to make the Museum more accessible to kids with disabilities;
• Ollie, Hope and Dawn once again were part of the CNIB Guide Dogs float for the Carleton Place Santa Claus Parade (Carleton Place is where the CNIB Canine Training Centre is located);
• In honour of International Persons with Disabilities Day (December 3), Ollie was awarded the Feeldom Student of the Year Award for demonstrating a spirit of compassion and positive influence in his community and got a very cool accessible backpack;
• Ollie was in a recording studio in Toronto to record a character voice for a new national animated campaign for CNIB that will launch this fall (can't wait to share it!);
• Dawn was humbled to receive the King Charles III Coronation Medal from CNIB for her outstanding commitment to advocating for children in Ontario with vision loss through her role as the President of the Ontario Parents of Visually Impaired Children and in recognition of the work that she has done nationally in this realm as well as her national work related to childhood cancer awareness;
• Ollie and Hope were featured in an episode of Collar of Duty Kids last week where we collaborated with CNIB, with Kids Kicking Cancer Canada Heroes Circle Ottawa, and CHEO to show how kids and their service/support animals work together;

[Photo Description: Ollie in the recording studio taking direction while reading the Braille script for an upcoming CNIB Next Generation campaign.]

• Ollie's Parasports Activities:
• Beep Kickball with the Miracle League of Ottawa - Ollie played last summer and early fall last year and is currently playing again this season;
• Skateboarding - Although his beloved indoor skatepark closed last year, Ollie continues to participate and even help to teach skateboarding to the CNIB youth during the warm months thanks to his instructor Jordan Wells bringing in the Ottawa Skateboarding Association (of which he is the President) to create a "Learn to Skate" para-skating program for them;
• Kids Kicking Cancer Canada Heroes Circle Program - Ollie continues to be involved through both the Ottawa Cancer Hub and CNIB (Dawn is also a member of the KKCC Ottawa Leadership Group) where he participated in regular classes as well as:
• The Jesse McLean 5k Walk/Run;
• AdaptExpo 2025 - Supported their exhibiting and teaching at the AdaptExpo 2025;
• Teaching - Worked with Kids Kicking Cancer founder Rabbi G to teach Detroit Tigers pitcher Sawyer Gipson-Long how to power breathe as he was recuperating last year from surgery, and once again got to meet and do martial arts with Mixed Martial Arts Champion  Georges St-Pierre (GSP) as part of Fight for the Cure 2024;
• Ollie received his green belt in June 2025 with another student, making them the two highest belts ever given in the Ottawa program to-date;
• Blind Hockey - Ollie played another incredible season as goalie with the Canadian Blind Hockey Association as a member of the Ottawa 67s Blind Hockey team. This year, an adult team was also started in Ottawa and Ollie often pitched in to be a second goalie for them when needed, playing with the children and youth team and then for a second hour with the adults! His incredible season also included: 
• A day on the ice with the Ottawa 67s players, 
• Demonstration of youth blind hockey at the Blind Hockey League (BLH) Carnegie Cup in December 2024 (Ollie also got to drop the ceremonial puck to start the international tournament);
• Demonstration of youth blind hockey at Fanfest as part of the World Junior Hockey Tournament in Ottawa in December 2024;
• Demonstration of youth blind hockey at the start of an Ottawa 67s game at TD Place in January 2024 (Ollie also got awarded their mini-game/demonstration puck to keep as the only goalie there);
• Ollie once again participated in the Canadian National Blind Hockey Tournament in Toronto and had his best tournament yet. He was awarded the Most Improved Player Award for his progress over the past year;
• Ollie also attended CNIB Lake Joe Blind Hockey Camp earlier this summer for a week to improve his skills and came back with the MVP trophy and a Champions medal;
• Blind Golf - Ollie began learning to play blind golf from a Blind Golf Pro last summer, continued to learn by using a golf simulator over the winter, and is now participating again this summer;
• Snowboarding - Ollie (and Abby) learned to snowboard this year over March Break at Blue Mountain. Ollie was excited to take his first adapted lesson and is eager to do more this winter (only problem is finding enough nights to do all of his activities!);

[Photo Description: Ollie after the belt grading in his gi and new green belt while Sensei Lyne stands behind him with her hands on his shoulders.]

• Other Family Developments:
• Ollie started middle-school at a high school in grade 7, had a great year with many new friends, and was part of the Cross-Country team. At the school awards ceremony in June 2025 he received awards for:
• Honour Roll both semesters;
• Director of Education 6 C's of Education - Creativity Award for always being an out of the box thinker who looks for solutions;
• Participation in the Gauss Math Contest with University of Waterloo;
• Cross Country Coach's Award for best team spirit and attitude;
• Abby got promoted to Director at the children's camp and before and after care centre that she works at and is working again full-time this summer;
• Abby got her G1 Driver's License last August and is taking her G2 exam later this summer;
• Karma really delivered for Abby in November 2024, helping her to win two free seats in a donated suite to see Taylor Swift with Campfire Circle in Toronto! Mom got to go, too!;
• Abby had a minor concussion last Christmas from a fall on the ice and we were grateful for the support of the local concussion clinic. She still decided to take her exams and did really well. She is now fully recovered;
• Abby also had her wisdom teeth out last winter as she was already too wise and no longer needed them! LOL She did well and healed quickly;
• Ollie began guitar lessons over the past year, beginning with acoustic and soon acquiring an electric guitar which is his new love. His teacher is a local musician with vision loss;
• We all just got back from an incredible 10 day European adventure visiting England and France to celebrate Ollie's 5 year anniversary of transplant. Dawn was asked to represent Canada and be part of an international ALCL ALK+ pediatric cancer study, so also spent one day at Cambridge University presenting, collaborating and learning.

[Photo Description: Abby,  Mario,  Ollie and Dawn pose at Tower Hill in front of London Tower Bridge in London,  UK earlier this summer. ]

If you read all the way to here, thank you! 

And as you can see we don't waste a minute of the extra time that we have been given with Ollie. Sometimes I am asked if we ever sleep, and we do, but we also know how precious every moment is and don't want to waste any. We do rest and plan to do more of this over the next month to be ready for another inevitably busy year, starting with Childhood Cancer Awareness Month in September. 

We don't blog here often anymore, but you can follow Ollie's continuing story on Instagram where we post shorter updates more regularly. 

Ollie's 4th Re-Birthday/Abby's 4th Hero Day

It has been 6 months since I wrote a blog post as with Ollie's many activities these days,  we share more regularly on Instagram and other social media (follow Ollie @cnib_ollies_hope for regular updates), but we needed to mark the occasion of the fourth anniversary of Ollie's stem cell transplant with Abby's beautiful lifesaving half match cells today.  

[Photo description: Abby smiles and has her arm around Ollie while he gives two thumbs up wearing his graduation suit with navy dress pants, a white short sleeves button down shirt, a vest, a Maple Leafs bow tie and blue reflective sunglasses. They are at Ollie's grade 6 graduation and posing in a balloon arch under a Congratulations banner.]

To refresh your memory,  Ollie was diagnosed at CHEO with Anaplastic Large Cell Lymphoma ALK Positive in November 2019 when he was 7 years old. After two rounds of chemo he suddenly relapsed in his central nervous system and went blind.  He had a short stint in the PICU, and he got back into remission just as the pandemic hit.  Because of the pandemic we were unable to use one of the three perfect stem cell matches on the international registry,  so our then 11 year old daughter Abby became his half match (haploidentical) match instead.   

We moved to Toronto at the end of March 2020 and Abby had her beautiful cells collected at Sick Kids Hospital on March 31, 2020. He was supposed to get them April 16, but by April 8th had relapsed again in his central nervous system. We tried more intrathecal chemo and a cancer inhibitor drug (Ceretinib) that didn't work for him. I had an agonizing conversation with our transplant/oncology team at Sick Kids about how there were few options left and maybe we should think about not treating him and causing him more pain or sudden death.  I raged against this and told our team we were going to try any, and all options left before we'd be done.  

Back to Ottawa we went to try 13 sessions of brain and spine radiation and a drug which was never tested in children (Lorlatinib), obtained under compassionate grounds from the manufacturer. Blessedly, this worked and got Ollie back into remission and on to transplant. We moved back to Toronto in early July 2020 and after 6 sessions of total body radiation and 2 days of chemo, got his transplant on July 20, 2020 with Abby's incredible cells.  You can read about Ollie's journey on our blog and about his transplant day at Sick Kids Hospital here. 

Four years ago when his future was a big question mark and the world was topsy turvy during the pandemic, we could not have imagined how he'd be thriving today. His recovery and his adapting to his blindness and showing everyone all that he can do have been extraordinary. Each year on the anniversary of his stem cell transplant, we share an update on how he's doing for all who have helped to get him well with their support, medical service,  prayers and love.  

Over the past year here is how Ollie has lived his best life and made his mark on the world:

- Officially ended treatment at the end of three years post transplant in August 2023 and has remained stable without any new medical issues over the past year.

[Photo Description: A split image with 7-year old Ollie and Dawn in the hagen at CHEO on his first day of diagnosis testing in October 2019 and after ringing the Celebration Bell in the same garden in his last day of official treatment when he was 11 in August 2023.]

- Was part of a panel of speakers (with mom) on patient-centred care for the SIOP international pediatric oncology conference held in Ottawa in October 2023.

[Photo Description: Ollie and Dawn pose among a large group of speakers and moderators from the patient-centred care panel at SIOP 2023.]

-  Played on his school's floor hockey team,  and was part of their Track and Field and Cross-Country teams,  running with a sighted guide. In addition,  he also played another season of Beep Kickball with Kids from the Ottawa vision loss community,  participated in a paraswimming program at Carleton University, and learned to play Goalball this spring from members of the Canadian Paralympic Team who will compete in Paris in the coming weeks.  

- Inspired a skateboarding program for youth with vision loss in Ottawa through the CNIB and the Ottawa Skateboarding Association and is helping to teach the program,  too!

[Photo Description: Ollie demonstrates a skateboarding move on the half pipe ramp at Ottawa's Lansdowne Park with his instructor Jordan nearby and other youth with vision loss watching.  He is using a mobility cane while skateboarding.]

- Helped to launch the CNIB's Children's Charter of Rights and new strategic plan with the goal of "Our kids will thrive." Spoke with mom Dawn at the CNIB Toronto event and at the Ottawa event on Parliament Hill. 

[Photo Description: Ollie sits beside Dawn holding a microphone while speaking on a family panel at the Ottawa launch of the CNIB Children's Charter. ]

- Played in his second season of Canadian Blind Hockey and his first season as a goalie with the Ottawa 67s Blind Hockey Team.  He also played in the Canadian National Blind Hockey Tournament in Toronto in March 2024 where he is one of only 3 youth Blind Hockey goalies in the entire country, and the youngest ever goalie to play Canadian Blind Hockey. 

[Photo Description: Ollie dressed in his red,  black and white Ottawa 67s Blind Hockey goalie gear waits in net to save a goal.]

- Was a CHEO Kid Ambassador for the annual Snow Angels for CHEO fundraising campaign for the 4th year in January 2023.  Watch his snow angel making in his bathing suit here.

- Participated once again with CNIB Guide Dogs and his CNIB Buddy Dog Hope in the Carleton Place Holiday Parade in November 2023 and the CNIB Buddy Dog Camp in Muskoka at CNIB Lake Joe in August 2023.

[Photo Description: Ollie walks his CNIB Buddy Dog Hope along the waterfront one morning at CNIB Buddy Dog Camp.]

- Was featured in the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society of Canada's national campaign in May-June 2024. Dawn sits on the LLSC's Parent Advisory Committee and has been helping them to develop new pediatric cancer supports as well.

- Spoke (with mom) to Executives at Canadian Blood Services at their annual leaders summit in Ottawa in May 2024.

[Photo Description: Ron Vezina, VP of Public Affairs,  Dawn,  Ollie, and Dr. Graham Sher, CEO are arm in arm at the Canadian Blood Services Executive Leaders Summit in Ottawa in May 2024.]

- Was confirmed in May 2024, to fully complete his baptism in the Catholic Church. He chose this because of the deep faith that he has, having survived so much thanks to God and the incredible medical team and army of support that he sent us. 

[Photo Description: Dawn,  Mario,  Ollie and Abby pose in the steps of the church for a family photo on the day of Ollie's confirmation in May 2020.]

- Recently received his orange green belt in martial arts with Kids Kicking Cancer Canada Ottawa Chapter. This is one of the highest belts that they have given in the Canadian programs to-date.

- Gave a Para-Athlete testimonial as an Ambassador representing both Kids Kicking Cancer Canada and Canadian Blind Hockey and delivered a demonstration of Kids Kicking Cancer Power Breathing at the Ottawa Inclusion and Parasports Expo in June 2023.

- Graduated from his elementary school from grade 6 in June 2024 - a bittersweet day due to leaving the incredible community that supported him during his darkest days, and celebrating this milestone when we weren't sure he'd ever see it 5 years ago. (See photo above)

- Spoke (with mom) to 400 donors at a fundraising dinner in June 2024 for the Ottawa Sports and Entertainment Group (OSEG) Foundation on behalf of his Ottawa 67s Blind Hockey Team that they sponsor. 

- With his family was part of a video shoot in June 2024 for a special project with Childhood Cancer Canada launching in September.  Here's a behind the scenes sneak peek.

Watch for details soon!

[Photo Description: Ollie poses in front of the Sick Kids Precision Health Care Crystal Ball in September 2023 on University Ave. in Toronto.  The crystal ball was inspired by #TeamAddy. It was actually Precision Health Care that identified Ollie's miracle drug through genetic sequencing.]

So Ollie has had another incredible year of wellness and has lived the big beautiful blind life that we promised our team we would ensure he'd have WHEN (not IF) they saved him. The only minor medical issues he's had this year were changes needed to his thyroid medication because of his growth spurts (he's now 5'3" and growing normally without intervention and wears a size 10.5 men's shoe already!), and we discovered that like his sister he now seems to have a sensitivity/allergy to chlorine (fascinating as he never did before and we've heard many stories of a recipient suddenly having the same allergies as their donor), which is easily managed with an antihistamine. He has his annual oncology checkup at CHEO in September and at this point there's no concerns. He'll have bone density scans and bloodwork next week for endocrinology who continues to follow him every 6 months.  

His attitude is always so positive and he never lets his fear hold him back from trying new and exciting things.  Last year at SIOP a woman attending asked me if he had a hard time staying active with his blindness and I literally laughed out loud, proceeded to apologize, and explain that there is little that he doesn't do.  In the past week alone he's done martial arts,  therapeutic horseback riding, and learned to play Blind Golf thanks to the amazing resources in our community. 

Last year he got a character award at school for his grit.  I think that really is the best way to describe him.  He's literally influencing and changing the world for the better with his advocacy already and he's only 12. We couldn't be prouder or more grateful. 

This also serves as my annual reminder to CHEO and Sick Kids Hospital to continue to work tirelessly to find new ways to treat rare cancers,  and never to lose hope or see these incredible kids as just statistics. Statistically he shouldn't be here today with all that's happened to him.  But he always beats the odds and is atypical in the best ways.  I am so grateful every moment that I listened to my gut and insisted we try the next option to save him.  And that our medical team listened to me and found the next thing to try. 

[Photo Description: Abby and Ollie high five after blowing out their 4th Re-birthday/4th Hero Day cake today.]

As for the rest of our family,   we're all good.  Together despite all odds and mostly happy.  The past year has seen greater stability for all of us,  especially Abby. She is now 16, no longer anxious about friends knowing our family's story, and she's impressing us with how responsible she is this summer as a director at a local summer day camp. I feel like we'll blink and she'll be off to her next chapter in post secondary school and am basking in these last precious years of us all being together, because we know too well what it's like to be apart. Because she's working every day with kids, and given her personal experience with childhood trauma she's thinking about a career in psychosocial support for children who have been through trauma. I cannot imagine a better possible path for her to share all that she's learned the past 5 years.  No matter what she chooses to do,  I know that all of this will translate into her changing many lives in incredible ways,  too.  She's certainly changed all of ours with her selfless gift.

Mario is stoic as always.  Happy to spend time with all of us,  tinkering with his computers,  building Lego pretending it's all for Ollie and not really a childhood dream come true for him,  and being constantly dragged out of his comfort zone by all of us who love him. 

I continue my many advocacy activities - some with Ollie as noted above and some on my own (e.g. as Co-Lead for ACCESS' Education and Training theme), but all with the desire to give back and to make the world a better place for my children and other families who must endure what we did. Many ask me how we do so much advocacy on top of our everyday life.  The truth is that it's a true passion and has been a need the past 4 years to help us process and make some kind of sense out of something that seemed so senseless. It's been a gift that we've given both ourselves and the childhood cancer and vision loss worlds and a way to pay what we were given forward. As always,  it always feels so great to give, so we'll keep doing it as long as we can. 

Keeping the Family Healthy During and Post Cancer

When Ollie was first diagnosed I had a terrible upper chest and sinus infection. Likely exacerbated from the stress of testing and diagnosis. I'd had two rounds of antibiotics already that didn't work, including a bronchial puffer and oral antibiotics. When I heard he'd need to go into hospital for 12 days I was frantic that they wouldn't let me in because of this illness I couldn't get rid of. 

I went to Shoppers Drug Mart late one night in the week between us hearing he had Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma and later his specific diagnosis of Anaplastic Large Cell Lymphoma (ALCL) and threw myself on the mercy of the young pharmacist there. I explained to her that I'd tried different antibiotics prescribed by doctors, but could not shake this and my actual desperation because I was about to be admitted with my 7 year old son for chemo and needed to keep him and the other kids at the hospital well. 

This kind and knowledgeable pharmacist started by compassionately telling me how sorry she was to great about my son and wishing us strength for the battle. Then she said, "Go to aisle 7 and find the Flonase nasal spray in the allergy section. It used to be a prescription antibiotic for sinus infections, but is now available over the counter as an allergy spray. It's very effective within days. Buy our genetic brand if it's cheaper as it is the same thing." Then she sent me off and wished me well. 

[Photo description: A new package of Flonase can always be found in my medicine cabinet now and works for allergies and sinus/respiratory infections]

That stuff cleared up whatever I had within a few days, but I took it the recommended course to be sure. I often send grateful prayers for that kind pharmacist and her knowledge. 

After that I knew the importance of staying well. During chemo, radiation and stem cell transplant any little bacteria or virus could have killed Ollie or another kid in treatment because with no neutrophils they could not fight infections. I could not live with the knowledge that one of us might do that to him.

Enter my dear friend from high school, now a registered Naturopathic Doctor, Dr. Colleen McQuarrie at Ottawa Integrative Health Centre (OIHC). Colleen has treated me off and on for the past 20 years. She had seen Ollie professionally before we landed at CHEO for testing. I'd ask her to consult because his pediatricians were convinced that his bump was a bacterial infection, but antibiotics were not working. I needed a trusted opinion and she helped us out. She imparted to me that she did feel a mass was serious and that his pediatrician was not moving us fast enough to get us to CHEO. She was the one who told me that we needed an Ear Nose and Throat consult at CHEO and she walked me through how to get my own pediatrician's office to do this.

When she heard that Ollie was finally diagnosed with cancer, she reached out to support me and said she could put together a cocktail of supplements to keep me well and recommended a few for Abby and Mario, too (both who are also patients of hers). She then kindly left them at my house for me and wouldn't take any money, saying it was her contribution to getting us on the path to wellness. I have taken this combination since then and was not sick a single day in his 2 years of treatment and stem cell transplant recovery. 

[Photo description: Dawn's daily vitamins and supplements in 10 bottles.]

Here is what I have taken for 3 years now (a few additions along the way for other reasons noted):

- Women's multivitamins

- Probiotic - I take 10 billion, but there are many formats - to keep gut flora healthy to aid in immune system function

- Iron - 232 mg - I have often been anemic since since high school and especially when you cannot eat leafy greens easily in hospital, this is important

- Vitamin C - 500 mg - helps to absorb sewers of the other supplements and boosts immune system

- Magnesium Bisglycinate/Pure Elemental Magnesium - 200 mg - I started getting leg cramps in the night in hospital when my body was so stressed and this has helped to alleviate those. Ollie also took it for a period of time when the cramps in his legs were bad during the early days of taking his Lorlatinib

- Omega 3 - 1200 mg - I have taken this for 15 years to help with my joints and sciatica. Also good for my heart and brain

- Folic Acid - 1 mg - we added this when I decided to make it my goal to give blood every 84 days as women are allowed in Canada to pay it forward for all who are saving my son. The Folic Acid helps to reproduce healthy blood cells.

- Zinc - 50 mg - to boost immune system

- D3 - 1,000 IU - to boost immune system

- Turmeric/Curcumin - I began taking this daily 15 years ago for my sciatica as it is a natural anti-inflammatory. Helps for any aches and pains in the body and you get a lot sitting around and sleeping in a hospital.

Mario and Abby got sick only once with strep throat in February 2020 before COVID and making everywhere began and Abby was still in school. That was super stressful and they both isolated for 10 days because Ollie was in the Pediatric Intensive Care Unit (PICU) with his first brain lapse.  After that they were way more careful, masking everywhere and taking daily supplements, too (although fewer than mine). Most important for everyone in the family is Vitamin D3, Zinc and a multivitamin. The cancer kid could only take D3 as others can mess up the absorption of their other cancer meds. 

Now that Ollie is 3.5 years in remission and his pediatrician is slowly retiring we have opted to have him see a Nurse Practitioner (NP) in a clinic that specializes in people who have or have had cancer. His new NP has so far impressed me with her comprehensive understanding of his medical history and her suggestions to continue to keep him well. For example, in addition to taking his D3 (which we bumped up to 2,500 mg daily) and a multi-vitamin now, she has added a K2 vitamin explaining that while the D3 helps him to absorb calcium, much of it still goes to waste due to inefficient absorption, so the K2 helps the calcium to go directly to his bones and help to strengthen then to improve his osteopenia (a result of long -term steroid use during treatment). 

She's also recommended that we add more Zinc as it helps with testosterone, which his endocrinology team is watching as he enters puberty. In addition she is recommending some options for a gentle detox of his liver which we are looking into. She also shared some evidence that the use of melatonin has anti-cancer benefits and was glad to hear that he had used it extensively during and after transplant as we worked to combat his lack of circadian rhythm due to not being able to see when it is daytime versus nighttime. 

While we are very grateful to Western medicine for ultimately saving our boy, we also believe that a combination of Western, and complimentary and alternative medicine generally reaps the best results and the healthiest people in the end. As we have shared in this blog before, Ollie had osteopathy treatments from our friend Elliot during chemo and regularly for the first two years after transplant. We are big proponents of massage therapy for any in the family that could benefit from the stress relief and know that CHEO was running a pilot last year where they were offering gentle massage on the oncology ward. Acupuncture has helped my own sciatica and related neuropathy in my leg and foot.

Always check with your own care team before taking any combination of supplements and vitamins, or using any complimentary or alternative therapies, but we hope that this may give you ideas to keep your family well through a cancer journey, too. 

2023: A Year of Advocacy and Constancy

In 46 BC (that's Before Christ, not before cancer) Julius Caesar redesigned the annual calendar to re-align it with the sun, after consultations with astronomers and mathematicians. He decided that January 1st would be the first day of the year in homage to the month’s namesake Janus. Janus was the Roman god of beginnings, whose two faces allowed him to look back into the past and forward into the future. This explains why most of us generally feel the need to look back on New Year's to see where we've come from, and forward toward where we hope the future will take us. 

In our family,  the look back has become easier over the last couple of years, because as we have gotten farther away from cancer and stem cell transplant, it's less painful to look back.  The looking forward is still challenging,  though, because through cancer we've learned that you have no real idea of what the future holds for you or how your life can completely change in a moment. So you tend not to think too far in advance, and you learn to simply live day by day during cancer,  grateful for the good days.  Thankfully our 2023 was a great one!

Our Year in Advocacy

I often get asked how we have the time and energy to do so much advocacy on top of work and school,  and the answer is that it is easy to do something that is so important and makes all of the agony that we had to go through meaningful. Ollie always has the choice to decide whether or not we do the advocacy opportunities that come along or not.  So far, he always wants to do it,  saying if we can help people,  we should.  I think it makes him feel good and builds his confidence and who doesn't want that for their child?! Especially one who is blind and will come up against social stigmas related to disabilities the rest of his life?! 

I keep thinking that people will get bored of hearing our story and when that happens, we'll know because the opportunities will stop coming,  but for now at least,  they still come often.  We also encourage other families like ours to share their stories, if it's right for them. We are thrilled that several have done so and tell us that it is in part because we've been brave enough to tell ours publicly and inspired them. This is how we all make positive change together. 

In addition to the specific advocacy activities below,  I am also grateful to be a member of the following committees and advisory groups:

- Special Education Advisory Committee (SEAC) for our school board

- Ontario Parents of Visually Impaired Children  (OPVIC) Board

- National Parent Voice for CNIB

- Kids Kicking Cancer Canada Ottawa Leadership Group

- CHEO Patient and Family Advisory Council (PFAC)

- CHEO Research Institute Family Leader 

- Leukemia and Lymphoma Society of Canada Pediatric Advisory Committee (PAC)

- Advancing Childhood Cancer Experience, Science and Survivorship (ACCESS) Co-Leads

- In Guage - COVID-19 in Immuno-compromised Children Study Family Advisory Council (FAC)

Some are monthly, others every few months and a few are ad hoc as needed,  enabling me to do many activities.  I feel passionate and good about doing these things in my personal time and it is easier now that Ollie is well and the kids are older and need less moment to moment attention.

Here are the highlights of our year doing specific advocacy activities for Childhood Cancer and Vision Loss:

January:

- Ollie and I were part of the Canadian Cancer Society's national campaign on palliative care.  The short commercials were aired in TV across the country and various streaming services and it made us laugh to get messages from all over the country from excited friends and family who happened to see it and were surprised to see us! Ollie and I did an interview with the Ottawa Citizen for this campaign and he later landed on the front page of the Ottawa Citizen for the second time in the last 4 years (the first was when he got Hope from CNIB in 2021)!

- The 6th annual Snow Angels for CHEO Campaign launched (our 3rd year involved) and I did an interview with founder Roland ten Holder on CTV Ottawa Morning. 

- I made and shared on social media my 12th blood donation at Canadian Blood Services. 

[Photo Description: Ollie smiles and holds a printed copy of the Ottawa Citizen showing a photo of him in his skateboard with his mobility cane on the front page.]

February:

- Ollie's class did Snow Angels for CHEO together (his amazing teacher Mrs. Endicott got the kids involved and they raised money,  too!) with special guest CHEO Bear in attendance!

- We did a final Snow Angels for CHEO event at CHEO (where Ollie did a second snow angel in his bathing suit this year) to celebrate the $35,000 that we helped to raise this year!

- Ollie and I were featured in (and in the cover!) of our local magazine,  Neighbours of Westboro, talking about why we advocate for Childhood Cancer Awareness and vision loss awareness. 

[Photo Description: A photo of the cover of Neighbours of Westboro magazine for January 2023. Ollie and Dawn wear winter coats and stand outside of Ollie's Clubhouse close together and smiling. The subtitle reads, "Meet Ollie and Dawn!"]

March:

- Ollie and Hope made a presentation to a local Cub group to talk about guide dogs and how they help people with vision loss!

- Ollie,  Hope and I shot an episode of an AMI-TV series about guide dogs (see below for details on when it aired!).

April:

- Canadian Cancer Society national palliative care campaign and Ollie and I spoke at their day on Parliament Hill

- Ollie, and Hope spoke at a CNIB Guide Dogs event at the CNIB Ottawa Hub. 

- I made and shared on social media my 13th blood donation at Canadian Blood Services. 

[Photo Description: Ollie speaks to Parliamentarians from the  podium with Dawn standing beside him at the Canadian Cancer Society's day on Parliament Hill on April 2023. A Canadian flag hangs in the background and two Canadian Cancer Society cards with daffodils that say "get better" can be seen on a table in the foreground. Photo courtesy of the Canadian Cancer Society. ]

May:

- An episode that I had previously recorded with Accessible Media Inc. (AMI)'s Double Tap aired as a special Mother's Day episode. 

[Photo Description: Ollie and Sensei Lyne sit at the Kids Kicking Cancer Canada  both at the Ottawa Inclusion and Para Sports Expo in June 2023. Sensei Lyne holds up a copy of the KKCC Ollie's story leaflet with Ollie's photo on it. ]

June:

- We attended the Ottawa Inclusion and Para Sports Expo at Carleton University and Ollie helped Sensei Lyne do a last minute Kids Kicking Cancer Canada demonstration, where he taught everyone to do power breathing!

- The cheque presentation that Snow Angels for CHEO founder Roland and I did with Leanne Cusack aired on the CHEO Telethon and I got to update CHEO donors on Ollie's progress since he was in the Telethon in 2021!

- I spoke on behalf of Kids Kicking Cancer Canada Ottawa at the 100 Women Who Care dinner, which resulted in KKCC getting $2,000+ in donations to help us to help other kids living with pain in Ottawa. 

- Ollie made his school's Track and Field Team for Para Ball Throw and Para Track. His buddy Zach offered to be and was an amazing sighted guide.  There were tears from many and so many cheers as they crossed the finish line together.  Although this wasn't done for advocacy purposes,  I was so proud that with the permission of Zach's mom I posted it on social media.  The school board contacted me this fall along if they could use the photo and story in their Director's Annual Report to shine a light on inclusion and Zach, his mom,  Ollie and I were happy to give permission. This is how organic advocacy happens to us when we share amazing moments.

- Ollie loaned his story to the Ottawa Cancer Foundation for their Lemonade Standemonium (an event Abby and I had helped with the year before Ollie's diagnosis) and although he was ill and couldn't come out that day,  I helped Kids Kicking Cancer Canada and Split Tree Cocktail to do a lemonade stand in gratitude for the dojo space that the Ottawa Cancer Foundation donates weekly to Kids Kicking Cancer Canada Ottawa Chapter. 

[Photo Description: A screen capture of a Kids Kicking Cancer Canada Instagram post of our lemonade stand with Dawn,  Sensei Lyne and Sensei Martina behind the stand on Split Tree Cocktail's patio.  Not pictured is Sensei Julie whose husband Steve owns Spilt Tree and provided the space and kitchen access. Photo courtesy of Julie Thompson.]

July:

- I made and shared on social media my 14th blood donation at Canadian Blood Services. 

August:

- The episode of Blind Trust: A Guide Dog's Journey, called Lost Dogs featured Ollie and Hope (with me in a supportive role as Ollie basically did this interview on his own) aired on AMI-TV.

September:

- For Childhood Cancer Awareness Month, as usual we did a lot of advocacy online.  We also did the Jesse McLean 5 km Memorial Wall to benefit Kids Kicking Cancer Canada Ottawa Chapter. And as usual,  Ollie participated in his school's annual Terry Fox Walk/Run, only given we were in Toronto for a CNIB event,  we did the walk together in Toronto. 

- I spoke at the CNIB Launch of the Strategic Plan in Toronto and Ollie and I represented CNIB Lake Joe camp at the Information Fair at the event.

[Photo Description: Ollie helps Rhonda from CNIB Toronto and Becky from CNIB Ottawa in testing a Braille Lego Exhibit before the CNIB Toronto Strategic Plan Launch and Info Fair in the CNIB Toronto Community Hub.]

October:

- Ollie and I spoke on a panel on patient-centred care at the SIOP international pediatric oncology conference that was hosted in Ottawa.  I also had the opportunity to speak on a panel as a volunteer about the work of the Canadian Pediatric Cancer Consortium (now called ACCESS - see below).

- Ollie and I attended the Kids Kicking Cancer Canada Ottawa Chapter golf tournament as ambassadors again and had a fun day. 

- I made and shared on social media my 15th blood donation at Canadian Blood Services. 

- Ollie and family attended a special event to meet and teach Mixed Martial Arts Champion Georges Ste-Pierre (GSP) with Kids Kicking Cancer Canada as part of the Fight for the Cure event.  

[Photo Description: Dawn speaks at the podium with Ollie standing beside her during the SIOP international pediatric oncology conference in Ottawa. Photo courtesy of Stephanie Grover from ACCESS.]

 November:

- Ollie and I spoke on a family panel for the launch of the CNIB Children's Charter on Parliament Hill on International Day of the Child. We were also interviewed about it by Capital Current. 

- The Leukemia and Lymphoma Society of Canada came to one of Ollie's Blind Hockey practices to get some footage of him playing and to interview the two of us about his cancer journey and resulting blindness for their Dare to Dream project.  The project aims to improve the quality of life of every child with a blood cancer and to help find less harsh drugs that cause fewer side effects. The video is expected to launch early in 2024.

- Ollie and I spoke to a group of staff at the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society of Canada online about what it is like to live through childhood cancer. This is to inform their revamp of their materials for children,  adolescents and young adults and caregivers. 

- Ollie,  Hope and I participated in the annual Carleton Place Santa Claus parade on the CNIB Guide Dogs float for the third year in a row!

[Photo Description: Ollie holds a copy of the new CNIB Children's Charter at the event on Parliament Hill where he and Dawn spoke on a family panel.  He also holds his mobility cane.  The CNIB both can be seen behind him to his right and takes of attendees are behind him. ]

December:

- As one of the Persons With Lived Experience (PWLE) Co-Leads for the Education and Training theme,  I attended the inaugural annual general meeting of the Advancing Childhood Cancer Experience, Science and Survivorship (ACCESS - formerly the Canadian Pediatric Cancer Consortium or CPCC) and participated in three days of meetings with other PWLEs, clinicians and researchers about how we can all work together to do better for kids fighting cancer in Canada,  particularly those like Ollie that relapse.

- I recorded an episode of a podcast about being a cancer parent with dear friend and fellow cancer mama Sam Taylor (whom I was connected with by her best friend and my fellow CNIB Buddy Dog mama Aubray, after Sam's daughter was diagnosed with cancer in fall 2022) for her upcoming series The Deep C Podcast which launches in January 2024!

[Photo Description: Dawn poses in front of the ACCESS banner at the inaugural annual general meeting.]

Our Family's Year

In addition to the advocacy,  we had a pretty good personal year for the whole family,  too.  

Ollie finished a great year in grade 5,  had a terrific summer going to CNIB Lake Joe for 3 weeks again this year, and spent 2 with his CNIB Ottawa friends doing fun day camps here,  too.  He had a terrific year in blind hockey,  ending last season strong with the national blind hockey tournament in Toronto. There one of the national team's goalies convinced him he should try goalie, as it is a great position for someone who is totally blind like Ollie.  So this fall,  Ollie learned to be goalie for his Ottawa 67s Blind Hockey team and is loving it! Not sure dad is loving lugging all of the equipment though! LOL  

[Photo Description: Ollie in his goalie equipment in net for a practice with the Ottawa 67s Blind Hockey team in November 2023.]

In addition, he made great progress on his skateboarding again this year, got CNIB to hold a skateboarding try it day with the Ottawa Skateboarding Association, and continues to work with his instructor Jordan.  In Kids Kicking Cancer martial arts,  Ollie got his orange belt in the summer, and this fall he got to meet Mixed Martial Arts (MMA) champion Georges Ste-Pierre (GSP) at the Fight for the Cure event.

[Photo Description: Ollie and GSP take fighting and guard stances to pose for a photo.  Ollie is wearing his gi with an orange belt and his mobility cane is leading on the wall behind them. ]

In May Abby and I were beyond lucky to go to the Taylor Swift #ErasTour concert in Foxborough, Massachusetts. It was a truly epic weekend and a special opportunity that was all about Abby in recognition of all that she sacrificed for her brother the past few years,  and the hard work that she'd put in at school in 2021-2022 despite its challenges.  Watching Abby's joy and wonder at the in person concert of a talented and giving artist who meant so much to her during the hardest time in her life was very emotional for me and made me feel even more gratitude for where we are today versus where we were 4 years ago at this time.  

[Photo Description: Dawn and Abby singing while taking a selfie at the Taylor Swift #ErasTour. Other singing fans can be seen behind us and we are barged in pink lights from the stage. ]

In July we just relaxed and took some vacation to recharge (hence no July advocacy events listed above). We started by visiting my family in Chatham- Kent for the first time since cancer and the pandemic, now that Ollie is fully vaccinated.  From there we went to CNIB Lake Joe for Ollie to attend hockey camp on his own again this year and Abby, Mario and I rented a cottage nearby again on Healey Lake.  It was a great opportunity to spend devoted time with Abby again, and help to make up for time we missed together with her when Ollie's illness often took us away from her. 

We also joyfully celebrated Ollie's third re-birthday and Abby's third hero day. 

[Photo Description: Abby,  Dawn's mom Luann,  Ollie,  Dawn and Hope are arm in arm during a family visit in Chatham-Kent in July 2023.]

In August we really enjoyed our family time at CNIB Lake Joe year because it was our first time attending Family Week versus Holiday Week, and we met many more families with kids, and got to catch up with other families we've met through our various activities in the blind and low vision community the past 2 years. Ollie and I stuck around in Muskoka for another week to attend CNIB Buddy Dog Camp and it was even bigger and better than the first year.  Spending time with this community is healing and validating in ways I can't adequately explain.  Watching your child with vision loss comfortably and confidently do everything anyone else can do in a safe and accommodated environment gives you a window into what the world could be like for all people with disability, if we only made the world more accessible for them.  It inspires us to take this view into the world through our advocacy all year. 

[Photo Description: Ollie and CNIB Buddy Dog Hope and Dawn and CNIB Guide Dog Sherman pose for a photo on the boat dock at CNIB Lake Joe.  Both dogs were puppy raised by Cathy Kieran.]

Abby worked all summer with kids and enjoyed it so she continues to work with them a couple of days a week after school. Her new school is a much better fit for her and she is doing well. 

Mario is as always stoic and constant.  He continues to work from home for the most part and spends a lot of time with the family. He is adjusting to the kids growing up and changing rapidly.  Neither of us can believe how fast it is all happening now that we are no longer watching the cancer days crawl by.  

We spent more time this year with dear friends, and I overcame my anxiety of being in large groups since Ollie's illness.  Overall we've been well other than minor viruses (all vaccinated for flu and COVID this fall and happy to report that so far we have avoided both) and we've all paid more attention to our health this year,  taking care of minor health issues that have taken a back seat to the more major ones in our family over the past few years. 

Hope and Chewbacca continue to provide lots of love and comfort to all of us and eat far too many treats! LOL

So like 2022, 2023 has been a really good year for our family.  We remain grateful for this constancy after so much upheaval and uncertainty.  We just wish that all cancer families could get to stability and wellness,  too,  and that all kids with vision loss could thrive,  so we continue our efforts in both areas into 2024! Thanks for your ongoing love and support.  Count your blessings this New Year's Day and wishing you all a happy and healthy 2024!

[Photo Description: Abby, Mario,  Ollie and Dawn take a selfie during a dinner over the Christmas holidays recently. Abby and Mario are wearing paper crowns from their Christmas crackers. ]