Happy New Year! I actually started writing this update weeks ago and then suddenly Christmas activities took over and I'm just now able to get back to it! It's been a lovely and quiet Christmas the past week and allowed for lots of rest and reflection on 2022.
Much like all of 2022, the past two months since I last updated the blog have been so busy! So much so that I didn't realize how much time has passed! Happy to report that other than minor colds and a sinus infection for me, we've all been well and normalcy is wonderful.
[Photo Description: Ollie on skates and wearing a hockey helmet and Ottawa 67s jersey holds the hands of his sighted guide Emily on his first day of Ottawa 67s Blind Hockey/Canadian Blind Hockey Association league.]
This fall Ollie started hockey with the Ottawa 67s/Canadian Blind Hockey Association. I wasn't sure how he'd like it this year even though he was sure he wanted to try it. Last year the only time we got him up on skates he was less than thrilled and mad at me for making him shuffle around the whole rink at least once before taking the skates off. Maybe it's that a bunch of his sighted buddies at school play hockey in leagues and talk about it all the time, or that some of his friends with vision loss have been raving about the program all summer when they played Beep Kickball together and they encouraged him to come out and try it this fall. Either way he couldn't wait for the season to start.
The first practice session was to show the newbies basics and how to skate. Ollie had been a decent skater before and had even taken lessons when he was sighted. Ironically one of the last activities that he did sighted was to go skating at one of the local park rinks with me one day in January 2020 between rounds of chemo when he was feeling well enough and cooped up. He was delighted that day to push the shovel around and clear the snow, then play a bit of hockey while we had the rink to ourselves because it was a weekday. Everyone else was busy with their regular work and school lives while we were at a loss for something to do when there were no medical appointments.
[Photo Description: Ollie stands on the ice wearing and a hockey helmet at Fisher Park, holding a hockey stick in January 2020 just after round 2 of chemo and before relapsing and going blind less than 2 weeks later.]
In October, during his first week of blind hockey, Ollie noted that the new kids suffered through the basics of learning to play with the help of one-on-one sighted guides, while those who had done it before got to play actual hockey at the other end of the arena with a couple of the coaches. By week two he was determined he'd quickly join the returning kids playing hockey. Each of the four weeks since Ollie has progressed with surprising speed and many of the other parents have commented on it and been amused by how determined he is to get better at it. We're not that surprised since we know very well how committed this kid is to getting better in every way.
It helps that the coaches and sighted guides are all incredibly dedicated and talented volunteers. The coordinators of the program, Wendy and Rob are the parents of the Executive Director of the Canadian Blind Hockey Association and do this because of their son's contagious passion for offering blind hockey across the country. The skating coach, Shelley is one of the most elite figure skating coaches in Canada and has been the Skating Development Consultant for the Ottawa Senators for more than a handful of years! Coach JoJo works with the Ottawa 67s and sighted guides like Emily (who is the Executive Director of Able2 that supported the Beep Kickball that Ollie played with the Miracle League of Ottawa last summer) come out to help each week, plus lend equipment when needed.
Since Ollie had never played hockey, we were uncertain if he'd like it, so appreciated that he could try it for a few weeks without us having to buy any equipment (other than providing his skates and helmet). Plus, they often get donations of gently used equipment so that families don't have to spend a lot to get started. When we saw that Ollie was clearly psyched to do it this year, our dear friends the Wright family gave Ollie everything he needed to get started as their two boys play hockey and had outgrown a bunch of stuff they were planning on donating somewhere anyways! This allows us to pay for just his ice time for the season and we'll make a donation to the Canadian Blind Hockey Association in 2023 to pay it forward so other visually impaired kids can play at low or no cost, too.
His new Ottawa 67s Blind Hockey jersey has been ordered (the first they gave him was too small once he got all the equipment on! 😆). So in the meantime, he happily wears the "real" Ottawa 67s jersey that the team gave him last spring to replace the original one that they gave him (he outgrew the first one) when Gabriel Pizza made the trip to Toronto to deliver the famous Olive pizzas (later named the Ollie's Pizza on his honour and still on their menu). Or his latest acquisition, which is the Hockey Fights Cancer Ottawa Senators jersey, which he got at their Hockey Fights Cancer game that we attended with Kids Kicking Cancer last month. He joked that it's the only way we'd get him into a Sens jersey! 😆
On October 29th we were excited to be included in the Ottawa REDBLACKS CFL game when Gabriel Pizza asked Ollie to do the coin toss (as the namesake of their Ollie's Pizza) with their founder, Mr. George Hanna. The whole family was included in the festivities, with Ollie doing the coin toss with the players, Mr. Hanna and the Gabriel Pizza mascot, Chef Gabe.
Game day was super exciting, and the whole family (including Hope) got to go down to the field level for the coin toss. I accompanied Ollie onto the sidelines and he was almost vibrating with energy as we talked to the Hanna Family and the Ottawa REDBLACKS staff while we waited for the big moment. From fireworks as the players came onto the field to the cheer team, it was non-stop action with me trying to explain it all to Ollie quickly and accurately as he listened to it all happening rapidly.
I guided him on to the field and stepped back while Ollie had his moment with the team. It happened pretty fast and Mr. Hanna did the actual coin toss while Ollie and mascot Chef Gabe stood nearby. On our way back to the sidelines I was delighted to see my old friend and former Ottawa Gee-Gees colleague/photographer Andre Ringuette of Freestyle Photography as he was shooting the game! He greeted us both (he's also a friend on Facebook and knows Ollie's story) and took an amazing shot of the two of us.
When he sent it to me, he told me it was the "shot of the week" and I have to admit it's one of my favourite ever taken of the two of us. I love this shot because my friend who is an amazing photographer (he also shoots for the Ottawa Senators, has been part of the Canadian delegation to shoot several Olympic Games, is the official Canadian Tire Centre photographer and has photographed SO many famous music groups and artists, etc.) took it, but also because although Ollie has my arm and I am supposed to be guiding him, you can clearly see he is actually leading me boldly with his mobility cane and no fear. Much like he has throughout his cancer, stem cell transplant and transition to blindness journey. People think I am guiding him through it all, but he's really always been intuitively leading me to help him.
[Photo Description: Ollie and Dawn walk off the field after the Ottawa REDBLACKS coin toss. The North side stands are behind them and although Ollie is holding Dawn's arm, he is clearly leading while walking slightly ahead of her and using his mobility cane. Photo credit to Andre Ringuette, Freestyle Photography.]
After the coin toss, the Hanna Family kindly invited us up to their suite to watch the game and eat with them. It was lovely to get to know Mr. George Hanna, his daughter Rolla (who also manages the Gabriel Pizza restaurant on Metcalfe in downtown Ottawa where I used to go for lunch pre-cancer and pre-COVID) and her teen son/his grandson Gabriel (born long AFTER the business was started) and we had a lot of fun, too!
[Photo Description: White letters against the sloped green hill in the REDBLACKS end zone spell out, "OLLIEWOOD".]
A few days later a friend sent me a photo that he took at another event at Lansdowne the day after the game. In the end zone someone had put up letters against the sloped green hill that said, "OLLIEWOOD". We checked against photos from the game the day before and they hadn't been there then! We actually think it was put up for Athletico Ottawa player Ollie Bassett, but this made Ollie laugh in delight to think that someone might have done this in homage to him! 😆
On Halloween we started our day at CHEO for bloodwork, a check-up and his final re-vaccinations (Diptheria, Tuberculosis and Pertussis - ironically it was Tuberculosis that they were convinced he had before he was diagnosed with cancer, even though he'd been vaccinated for it) after transplant. Hope came with us again and made Ollie even calmer. At one point when Nurse Julie was trying to clean his arm to prepare for bloodwork, Hope kept trying to be helpful and comforting and lick him where Julie had already cleaned, so we had to hold her so we could do it without a contaminated field! 😆
Later Dr. Brianna (who was also dressed up as a baseball player for Halloween) helped Ollie to find and listen to Hope's heartbeat with her stethoscope. Talk about full service at CHEO! 😆
[Photo Description: Ollie and Hope sit on the gurney in MDU and he listens to Hope's heartbeat on Dr. Brianna's stethoscope as she holds it in place.]
So the only ongoing issue besides the minor osteopenia in his lower back and hip (which his recent scans showed had actually improved again marginally), is his thyroid. Since September we've been playing with his dose of synthetic thyroid medicine to try to get to the right level. Every month he's had to go back for bloodwork to check the level again and each month it's still been too high, showing that he is now experiencing hyperthyroidism instead of the hypothyroidism he has had since transplant.
Last month when they bumped him down for the third time to the lowest dose he's ever been on (50 mg), I asked the endocrinologist if it were possible that his thyroid is now actually functioning properly again and maybe he doesn't need the med anymore? I suggested perhaps the Lorlatinib that had been surpressing his immune system (as soon as we took him off his white blood cell count, red blood cell count, neutrophils, etc. shot up again, almost doubling even though his levels on Lorlatinib had been healthy/within normal ranges), has also been suppressing his thyroid function and now that he was no longer on the drug perhaps it was working again? She acknowledged that this was possible, but we'd still have to take the latest dose for a month and see what the bloodwork shows as it can take 4-6 weeks for the dose change to take effect.
We'll go again this week to check, but his appetite is still very low even though the fatigue, sensitivity and outbursts have disappeared, and this makes me think we are still giving him too much med and he may not need it at all. We'll keep you posted, but my track record on predicting/analyzing this stuff has been pretty good so far.
At the beginning of November, Ollie and I were invited to share his story and his transition to blindness with a university group called, Unite for Site thanks to his Kids Kicking Cancer Sensei Brian being part of the group that organizes it. It was my first time back on the University of Ottawa campus (other than at the arena where he now plays hockey, too!) in a long time and it was kind of fun to share more of my alma mater with my son. Hope came along too and the talk was well- received.
At the end of November we also once again participated in the Carleton Place Santa Parade on the CNIB Guide Dogs float. It was another beautiful night with great weather and not too cold! It was extra fun to have our friends Adam, his mom Lisa and his new Buddy Dog Henson there this year, in addition to our friends Connor, his CNIB Buddy Dog June and mom Julie. As always it was great to see the coordinator of the Buddy Dog program who gave us our Hope, Miriam.
In early December Unite for Site had us back to teach them about the basics of Braille. The event was held at the Ottawa Eye Institute just down the hall from Ollie's retina specialist's clinic and as all were welcome, we were delighted that friends Sam (who wrote the Ollie's Telescope book based on Ollie), her son Tobey, and Sensei Lyne and her husband, Luigi also came! We had a great time and Ollie was an incredibly funny and charismatic teacher. Sensei Lyne told me after that he IS teaching the world and since his vision itinerant teacher Dawne also tells me what an incredible teacher he is for the little ones, it seems maybe he is destined to be a teacher as he grows up, whether by profession or simply by passion.
[Photo Description: Dawn and Ollie are pictured with the group that came to Braille Night behind a table with Braille materials on it. They were all excellent students!]
We recently got back our family photos that were taken during this year's #PhotosForPhoebe fundraiser for the Phoebe Rose Rocks Foundation who supported us during transplant and co-sponsored the genetic sequencing testing that helped to identify his miracle drug Lorlatinib.
[Photo Description: Mario and Dawn hug Ollie and Abby between them in their 2022 family photos. Photo credit to Anne-Marie Bouchard.]
It was so nice to do the photos in a studio this year with photographer Anne-Marie Bouchard and to be able to meet Phoebe's mom, Jenny and her sister, Mae. As it turns out Abby knew Mae from school, but neither girl realized what they had in common beyond another friend who also volunteered to help that day. It's funny that I had also told Abby about another kid that goes to her school who had cancer (I sit on a committee with their dad) and it turns out she knew them, too and didn't realize what they had in common either. She seemed shocked that she now knew several others whose families have been affected by childhood cancer, too. The thing is cancer isolates you so much that while you're in it, you can't imagine that anyone else like you might be experiencing it, too, especially if you're a teen and think you're the only one suffering.
[Photo Description: Ollie bends down with his hands on Hope as she lies down in her halty and CNIB Buddy Dog vest. Photo credit to Anne-Marie Bouchard.]
In December Ollie and I were invited to be part of a commercial that the Canadian Cancer Society is putting together to promote the value of palliative care in hopes that the various provincial governments will increase their support across the country. We were the only pediatric cancer family to be involved and they wanted to highlight how our experience with palliative care helped Ollie to survive. This was easy because I am convinced that meeting with Sick Kids Hospital's Palliative Advanced Care Team (PACT) from the outset of his second attempt at transplant and working with them to ensure we had pain management, nutrition and psycho-social supports in place for the whole family during his transplant helped us all to get through it more easily than we expected to. Palliative isn't just about end of life care (although we have dear friends who have needed this and have seen through them the value of making children's passing as peaceful and comfortable as possible for the whole family) and we need to do more to make people understand all of it.
[Photo Description: Ollie gets ready to do a drop-in into the bowl at The Yard during his skateboarding lesson with Jordan. The director of the Canadian Cancer Society commercial holds the camera, one of the production assistants is by his side and the boom mic can be seen in the shot.]
So Ollie and I shot the commercial with the crew on December 8th beginning with our individual interviews at home, some b-roll of playing at home and then we took them to the Yard for Ollie's skateboarding lesson.
Ollie insisted on trying the five foot drop-in that he hadn't landed yet. He tried it twice while they are filming and took major wipe-outs, as my heart was pounding and I was holding myself back from taking him not to do it. Both Jordan and I told him he didn't have to for the camera and it didn't have to happen on that day. When we saw that he wouldn't give up, Jordan gave him a pep talk and I yelled, "I CAN DO IT! I CAN DO IT!", which is what we used to say over and over when he needed to convince himself that he could do the hardest things during cancer and stem cell transplant. He said a little prayer and told himself he could do it (he told me this later) and on the third try he nailed the drop-in with no hands and Jordan caught his hands as he descended into the bowl successfully without wiping out.
At the end they hugged so hard and the entire crew was wiping tears from their eyes. If they keep it in the commercial, it'll be interesting to see if others feel what a big deal it was for the blind ten year old cancer and stem cell transplant survivor to do this. I shared the story and the video on social media and there was a lot of fanfare including one of his personal heroes, pro blind skateboarder Justin Bishop sharing it on his Instagram story the next day. Ollie was very proud.
The commercial was being shot with other adults across Canada and is expected to be released early in 2023. We'll keep you posted and share it when it is publicly available. We may just be a few seconds in it, but feel proud to be helping and I know that my grandparents (who were big Canadian Cancer Society supporters after the three times my grandpa had cancer) would be happy that we were doing what we could to help others to get better palliative care in future.
[Photo Description: Ollie helps Mario to put the Christmas tree together.]
Ollie was sick for about 2 weeks with what we suspect was RSV, even though he still masks at school, as his school has had record absenteeism rates due to RSV and flu. As Ollie pointed out to us, kids were going to school sick (the principal corroborated at the Parent Council meeting that they were having to send a lot of sick kids home who were clearly sick before they got to school!) and he still had to take his mask off at lunch time to eat, so likely got sick that way.
Ollie had his flu shot in October as did we all, and his most recent COVID booster in November and we tested for days when he got sick, so know it wasn't COVID, and no fever, nausea or vomiting, so not flu. Plus several of his teachers were out with RSV or it having developed into pneumonia over December. We kept him home over a week until the mucous stopped constantly making him miserable.
Naturally that's how I got it on top of the sinus infection I'd been waiting for a virtual doctor's visit to address. I felt pretty rotten for about 6 days, but thankfully the doctor gave me antibiotics for the sinus infection, so when that cleared, the cold symptoms were much more manageable. Again, we stayed home and waited it out to ensure I was no longer contagious and actually felt human before venturing out again. It also meant we postponed some plans to see friends over the first days of the holidays until I was better after Christmas.
[Photo Description: Ollie stands slightly on tip-toe to put the star on the Christmas tree himself this year! He's getting so tall and already wears a men's size 10.5 shoe, so the bone specialist says he'll be tall despite radiation potentially compressing his spine.]
We actually had a quiet, but peaceful and happy Christmas. No family up and given I was sick and there was the crazy storm that happened the 22nd to 24th, glad all our loved ones were home safe and healthy, too. We saw a few dear friends in the days after Christmas for short visits when I was feeling better, but for the most part have just rested and recharged. It's been a really busy, but productive year.
Reflecting on all that we've accomplished, there's been so much personal growth and stability for all of us together and each of us individually. It's been the year we all finally got back to the "normal" of school and work and started to have social lives beyond social media or online chats again.
On the cancer and blindness advocacy side, we have contributed to the following (many with Ollie being directly involved and others on my own based on his story) in 2022:
- 15 Research Studies related to Pediatric Cancer, COVID-19 in immuno-compromised families and Accessibility
- Member of 3 Parent Advisory Committees for Oncology/Lymphoma, and 2 Parent Advisory Committees and 1 Board of Directors for Blindness/Accessibility
- Shot a commercial for cancer advocacy
- Had a book written about Ollie and a book signing that raised money for CHEO
- Held a Braille Night to teach people about Braille
- Launched the CHEO Dream Home Lottery
- 11 media interviews
- Wrote 11 blog posts and countless social media posts related to Ollie's status, cancer, it's side effects and blindness
- Made a handful of presentations on Ollie's story and lessons learned to various organizations as requested to raise awareness
- Participated in 6 fundraisers for the various charities who have helped us
- Donated blood 4 times (every 84 days as allowed)
So we're feeling pretty great about how we've paid it forward this year, recognizing that I didn't work at all the first three months, worked part time the second the months and full-time the last 6, so it's unlikely that we'd ever have this much time again to do so much! We have a few new commitments lined up for 2023 including work to help the new Canadian Pediatric Cancer Consortium and Leukemia and Lymphoma of Canada to revamp their programs for children and youth, in addition to some of the ongoing advisory roles.
People often ask me where I find the time or energy, but it is literally a labour of love, has helped me to heal and find meaning in the hardships that we endured, and frankly feeds my soul so much more than watching TV in my free time would! I plan to take it a bit easier in 2023 to see what else is possible for us, but Ollie and I agree that if we're asked to help and we feel we can, we will. We respect as well that Mario and Abby have needed to take a step back and do less this year so that they can move forward in their own ways, so we do it on our own these days.
So 2022 was extraordinary in all the best ways for us and we hope and pray that 2023 will continue to be one of happiness, healing and health. Wishing all of you so much joy in 2023! Thanks for sticking with us.